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Who is right? Cardinal Coccopalmerio or Others?

Who is right? Cardinal Coccopalmerio or Others?

  • Posted by Mary's Advocates
  • On March 1, 2022
  • 6 Comments

by Bai Macfarlane
Recently, a husband (who shall remain nameless) asked his diocese for of a judgment in a case of separation of spouses. He was trying to vindicate his rights as a married man with children after his wife abandoned the marriage.  After submitting his personalization of the template petition from Mary’s Advocates, Petitioner-husband was given no judgment by the diocese. So, he made recourse to the Congregation of Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments. The Undersecretary of the Congregation, Fr. Aurelio García Macías, sent the husband a copy of Cardinal Coccopalmerio’s 2015 opinion about civil divorce, as if that proved the husband had no right to any judgement of his petition.  The Congregation was not going to accept the husband’s recourse, nor undergo any proceeding.

Even though the husband never wrote anything to his Bishop nor the Congregation asserting that his wife was obligated to have the Bishop’s permission prior to filing in the civil forum for divorce, Fr. Macías showed Petitioner-husband Cardinal Coccopalmerio’s 2005 letter. My findings about this letter were published by LifeSite News in January of 2016, Two wrongs don’t make a right: Is the Church handing its authority to no-fault divorce courts?

The husband, then, sent to the Supreme Tribunal of the Signature a further recourse. Read anonymous version of his recourse HERE. The husband supports his position by citing authorities from 1948-2011 who all described the judgement of malicious abandonment given by diocesan/tribunal authorities.

Of issue is whether there is a basis for a spouse to seek a judgement in a case of separation of spouses if the other spouse is already disrupting the marital life by invoking the civil forum’s no-fault divorce machinations.

In other words, did the Church relegate all competence to the civil forum to determine spouses’ obligations toward each other and their children? While the Church is silent, the civil forum purports to relieve every divorce petitioner of the obligation to maintain a common marital home. Civil courts often force an innocent party to lose everyday access to one’s children and pay to maintain a separate residence for the other spouse and children where he is not allowed to live.

 

 

6 Comments

Philip M Wagner
  • Mar 27 2022
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No fault can be eliminated fairly quickly once the details are known. Focusing only on canon law doesn't do it. Finding others who have sufficient interest and willing to work towards a common goal would do wonders.
Andrew
  • Mar 22 2022
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People who leave that way are cruel brother, so I applaud you for forgiving her and praying for her. That's often all we can do when people shut us out, and I should know since I was just let go again (thankfully outside of marriage)without any real reason or justification either. I was simply told that she didn't believe it was wise for her to be in an intimate/romantic relationship with me or anyone based on the "season" she's in and based on what the Lord put on her heart. However, she won't define or describe either of those things to me, so she is basically using the Lord to justify her poor treatment of me and her bad behavior in leaving the way she did. I've reached out several times attempting to talk and reconcile things, but all I've received in return is silence (i.e. no interest in talking and reconciling, even if it's just so we can both be at peace, like we are commanded to by the Lord in the Bible). It's shameful and I'm sorry you're going through it too. Stay strong in prayer brother, take ownership of what the Lord reveals to you, and offer it all up to Him! In Christ, Andrew P.S. It has also really helped me in the past to write it all down in a faith journal, especially what the Lord reveals to me about myself and the relationship through the Holy Spirit. There have been some amazing insights that have really helped my journey with Him, my witness to others, and my preparation for marriage some day.
Bob Kendrick
  • Mar 6 2022
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I am a a male, who after 31+ years of faithful marriage has been dealing with a divorce for 7 months. Because of the No-fault divorce laws in Iowa I have never been given any specific reasons as to why, other than she simply said she doesn't love me any longer. We had many blessings and good times within those 31 years. I asked for conciliation but was denied by the court without any opportunity to speak on my behalf. I acknowledge that my wife and I could have better communication skills and I wanted to go to a therapist to seek help but she didn't think she could do it. She didn't like the midwest climate and is now living with her sister in Florida. There is so much more to add to all of this. I still love my wife and forgive her but my heart has been deeply scared. No Fault divorce laws are so cruel !!!!
Joan D.Ford
  • Mar 2 2022
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Neither is correct. The Spouse made his decision when he married to keep his "life long marriage commitment". The court's decision holds no weight except for verifying the date and time of the marriage. The marriage is still valid until there is evidence the marriage was invalid on the day of marriage. Christ gave the priests the power to "bind and loose " by his succession of power. Canon law should be in accordance with the teachings of Christ. Amen.
Garrick Small
  • Mar 1 2022
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If marriage is about children, then most of the damage done to children is done by separation. Making civil courts the defacto authority on the termination of marriage amounts to a negation of the Church's obligations to families and a negation of Pope Leo XIII's 1880, Arcanum Divinae. Permanent separation is in practice the end of the marriage.
Jane Miner
  • Mar 1 2022
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Ya know, more and more Church Hierarchy are abdicating Canon Law, as you stated so well. It is disheartening to see that they are becoming very secular in their dealings with Catholics who are seeking their rights to be heard. Perhaps pride in THEIR PERSONAL JUDGEMENT. Laziness is the operative word here.

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