Plea to Cardinal Sarah – Deliver us from No-fault Divorce

Plea to Cardinal Sarah – Deliver us from No-fault Divorce

  • Posted by Mary's Advocates
  • On December 10, 2019
  • 13 Comments

Husband Video Recorded his own Eviction

On December 6, a husband who was never accused of abuse or adultery video recorded his eviction from his home by the civil courts of Nebraska. He was evicted because his wife filed for no-fault divorce. She is a professed good Catholic. 

I’ve been corresponding with this husband for a couple years and his wife was given scandal by their diocese who issued a formal decree giving her permission to file for civil divorce. The diocese never had any ecclesiastic proceeding, as required, investigating whether the husband did anything grave to justify permanent separation. Furthermore, the diocese conducted no investigation to determine whether the outcome in the civil forum would be contrary to divine law.

The husband has been residing in the marital home for 28-years and his wife abandoned the marriage about a year ago and asked the court to give her the house.  She got what she asked for. On Friday, she returned to the marital home and the County sheriff helped her kick out her husband.

Watch what happened to the husband when he came home from work Friday December 6 to the Sheriff’s no trespassing sign on his own front door. See interchange with this wife, and hear discussions with the police and a county sheriff.

Video of Husband’s Eviction

Those in a Catholic marriages have rights and the no-fault divorce courts violate those rights every day. Even those who are dissatisfied with their marriage (who file for no-fault divorce) have the right to receive proper pastoral counsel. The counsel provided by no-fault divorce lawyers and judges is typically immoral condoning marital abandonment and overlooking the obligation to work through marital difficulties.

The husband sent his plea to Cardinal Sarah over a year ago. His Congregation of the Discipline of the Sacraments has competence to oversee how U.S. bishops respond to pleas for help in cases of marital abandonment and separation (a.k.a., civil divorce cases amongst Catholics). Cardinal Sarah can tell the U.S. bishop that no wife should ever be given permission to file for civil divorce without an ecclesiastic investigation determining if the husband is doing something grave enough to justify permanent separation. Furthermore, the U.S. bishops could be instructed about obligations of parties after separation that are in accord with divine law, in contrast to the obligations arranged in post-Christian no-fault divorce courts.

If you know anyone in Africa, please forward this blog to them in hopes that Cardinal Sarah will heed our plea.

Apparently, the normal channels of communication are not working. The Papal Nuncio to the USA (Archbishop Christophe Pierre), told the husband that his recourse was being forwarded to Cardinal Sarah. I wonder who is getting the mail at his Congregation in the Vatican. Is mail being intercepted like had occurred in 2014? Cardinal Baldisseri ordered the Vatican Post Office workers to intercept a bunch of packages and maybe that happened with the husband’s plea. I know others who also sent recourses to Cardinal Sarah who never received a reply.

Video Plea to Cardinal Sarah

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13 Comments

mike dycus
Gram09. I am the subject in the video. My wife has never been physically or mentally abused. I did on rare occasions 25 years ago call her vulgar names. I have repented and amended my behavior. I conducted daily bible studies with my family which my wife only participated in part time. I have been an excellent provider. Our house has been paid off for 25 years. All of my children have worked for me in the family business. No porn, HBO or anything like it. My wife ghosted me completely the 11 months preceeding her leaving the home. She slept in the spare bedroom and would not even acknowledge me. She told me 12 years ago when the kids were grown and gone she would divorce me. I think she was just simply implementing her plan. We argued about her receiving Holy Communion while separating bed and board. She left that night and filed for divorce several days later.
Joan D. Ford
The Responsible Normal Spouse /Parent choosing "life long marriage" deserves and expect courts to support and preserve Spousal/Parental life long freedom in the care of their family and their life. Unfaithful , unrepentant or other complaining spouses leave if you must , sorting out your issues for a private discussion. Amen.
Frances
Michael J. Allen, you're a 22 years old woman and some guy proposes to you. But you know the likelihood of him leaving you for another woman is 50%. And there is a high probability he will get into pornography, alcohol, drugs or gambling. So there is over a 50% probability that you and your children will suffer poverty and neglect. And since divorce causes the children to score lower on every demographic metric; your children have a 50% probability of becoming dysfuncional.
E W Mitzerway
What would the husband have to do to deserve this? Physical abuse? Adultery? Porn addiction? Refuse to work and support his family? Alcohol addiction? Beat the children? Gram09 your thoughts?
Gram09
It is heart breaking but we are only hearing one side of the story here and judging on that one side. Every story has two sides and until we know them we should not judge. I too am Catholic and do not like divorce but I also know that there is only one true judge and that is are Lord. So I will not judge. God Bless all involved.
Youman
Lucky for that wife that her husband is not a Muslim.
MadMagyar
This is EXACTLY why I contend that 'civil' marriage and sacramental marriage is incompatible and, more to the point, mutually exclusive. The one is a 'license' - literally permission from the secular state to do that which would otherwise be unLAWful. The other is the Church's recognition and blessing of the union (which has already happened in the couple's hearts). The lawful state of the union is recognized by the Church itself - and precedes any presumed 'authority' of the state. In fact, the only authority the state has is given to it BY THE CHURCH. A common law lecturer once pointed out this upside down relationship between the church and state one time in reading the legal definition of 'license', asking "What's unLAWful about getting married?". Bringing the corporate state into the relationship to make a three-way contract seems to be the last (and worst) thing a couple would want to do. Marriage, being a Divine contract between them and God, already has a permanent nature, confirmed by the Lord Himself. The state has nothing to do with a Catholic marriage. That the Church has acquiesced to the secular state in these matters shows how far it has gone in abandoning its authority. Next thing you know the seal of the confessional will come under attack by the state . . . oh, wait.
Michael J Allen
Your 24 and somebody hands you 2 parachutes and says only 1 is going to work and the other one will ruin your life- is that a good chance to take. 50/50 chance because of the Marxist government a triggered psychotic woman is going to take your house, your kids and minimum half of everything you possess because she FEELS like it.
Sharelle Temaat
This is a absolutely despicable. In 1960, before no-fault divorce, my mother got a court order forcing my father to leave his own home after 20 years of marriage. I will NEVER forget the look on my poor father's face as he went through his own home for the last time, picking up his things Why did my mother do that? My father was the kindest person; at his funeral in 2006 one person after another came up to me to tell me that they were there because of his kindness. She did it because Satan entered into her, telling her that at forty she was beautiful and that other men would appreciate her. She went through two more "husbands," ending up miserable, dying blind and alone in 1999. Meanwhile she ruined everything for everyone. She and my father used to prepare beautiful Christmases for us, family vacations, picnics, ice skating, swimming outings, and extended family reunions. All that was gone forever because children and the faithful spouse lose when Mom has to have her new man. What help were priests in 1960? Our pastor told her to reconcile, which she ignored. A Jesuit at the local college told her to think of herself. Aha. So we know how this scenario has repeated itself right up to 2019, and it's only reasonable to presume that NO WOMAN who does this reprehensible thing to her husband who is not criminal, has a home with the Lord. Why would He say, " Welcome home, daughter," to an adulteress? That's totally contrary to what He and His disciples taught. There's a place for such people, but it's not heaven no matter what priests, bishops, cardinals, or popes think today.
Susan
What a bad example this gives to young men contemplating marriage.
Michael
yes, unilateral no-fault divorce is EVIL.
Hopeful
My plea to Cardinal Sarah was also ignored. I am also a husband who has done nothing deserving of abandonment. The parish priests where my wife fled to live with her sister told her it was okay to abandon me and file for divorce. To my knowledge my wife has not communicated with any Bishop here or where she is living now. I know for sure that nobody professing to be from the church has asked me my side of our issues. The priests I talk to say I'm the innocent party and the priests my wife talk to say she is the innocent party and NOBODY is listening to both sides. Our divorce is proceeding without my cooperation. I made a solomn vow to God over 33 years ago to love my wife till the day I die; I will do so regardless of what civil authorities decree. I hope this horrendous disregard for the sanctity of marriage will be corrected soon. I pray that the tacit condonation of Catholic authorities to abandonment and divorce will be taken into consideration during the final judgement of the abandoners.
Debbie
Heartbreaking!!! Absolutely cruel!! The wife should be ashamed!! Praying for the 4 kids and the whole family being torn apart. God help us!!

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