- Posted by Mary's Advocates
- On June 18, 2019
by Bai Macfarlane, Director Mary’s Advocates
Anna Maria from Los Angeles phoned the Patrick Madrid show on May 28. She was concerned about the scandal her husband was giving their 11-year old son and everyone else. Her husband (from whom she is separated and legally divorced) is bringing a girlfriend to family events. Anna Maria is concerned about her husband receiving Holy Communion, given his life’s choice. She said their son knows his Catechism about marriage and his seeing Dad with another woman is giving their son scandal. Committed to chastity, Anna Maria is being faithful to their marriage and she’s worried about her husband’s soul. She said she wouldn’t want anyone to suffer the pains of hell.
Madrid asked a couple questions and learned that Anna Maria believed she and her husband went into their marriage in good faith and both assumed their marriage was for life. A couple times, Anna Maria asked Madrid what he thought about her asking her husband to apply for an annulment. However, Madrid took the discussion another direction. He recommended Mary’s Advocates as a resource for innocent Catholics who face no-fault divorce and suggests that Anna Maria confront her husband with the concern that he’s on his way to hell.
Excerpt at minute 14:28 in May 28 2019. Original here.
“The Church assumes with you that this marriage remains valid” said Madrid and he hopes that Anna Maria will reconcile with her husband. Madrid suggested that she give her husband the book, The Dogma of Hell (by Father F.X. Schouppe, S.J., originally published in 1883), which was instrumental in the conversion of Madrid’s own sister. The Dogma of Hell gives the Church’s teaching and contains “true stories from the lives of the saints in circumstances in the Church, in her history – – has seen in which, for example, damned souls would be permitted by God to come back and warn other people” […].
About Anna Maria’s husband, Madrid says, “Maybe if your husband were to sit down, and start thumbing through this book about hell, and realize about how he’s on that wide road that leads to perdition, that might be just the thing to bring him to his senses. And perhaps, maybe, there might even be a chance of restoration of the marriage.”
Mary’s Advocate says thank you Patrick Madrid for encouraging reconciliation and correcting the sinner, rather than repeating the pablum supposed-pastoral-care, that any divorced couple with an entangled new significant-other is healed by getting an annulment. We need more teachers to do the same, and mention that divorce (in and of itself) also leads to perdition for one or both spouses. In divorce, one, or both, are reneging on their marriage promises, regardless of whether there is a new girlfriend in the picture.
Mary’s Advocates is a non-profit organization working to reduce unilateral no-fault divorce and support those who are unjustly abandoned. See the petition an abandoned spouse can send the bishop to try to stop a break-up and get proper instruction for an abandoner about his/her obligation to uphold marriage promises.