- Posted by Mary's Advocates
- On August 1, 2016
Dr. Fitzgibbons teaches about divorce (origins, damage prevention, and new responses) and exposes the myth that divorce is the solution to one’s unhappiness. His institute helps couples reconcile, especially when there is a “faith component in the whole healing process.” They offer dozens of free webinars. Fitzgibbons is the co-author of “Forgiveness Therapy,” and he says his clients, “are surprised and delighted that they can rediscover a warmth in their heart for their spouse.” (min. 4:39 webinar below). He’s contributed a chapter in Torn Asunder: Children, the Myth of the Good Divorce, and the Recovery of Origins and is the author of Habits for a Healthy Marriage: A Handbook for Catholic Couples .
Psychological Science and the Evaluation of Nullity
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 9, 2015
Excerpt from The Catholic Thing.Org HERE
… The spouses who are not happy and who want to pursue divorce and a decision of nullity most often refuse to address their own weaknesses. Instead, they portray themselves as victims of insensitive treatment or emotional abuse.
The psychological reality is that every spouse brings special gifts into marriage, but they also bring psychological weaknesses, which are most often deeply buried out of conscious awareness.
The weaknesses commonly brought into marriage are
- the result of a lack of a secure loving relationship with one parent, most often the father;
- selfishness, described by many popes as the major “enemy” of marital love;
- severe weaknesses in trusting; emotionally distant behaviors resulting in spousal loneliness;
- controlling, disrespectful behaviors from unresolved hurts with a parent;
- failure to master anger daily by growth in forgiveness;
- misdirected anger that is meant for a parent or others;
- weaknesses in confidence; excessive anxiety associated with irritability;
- family of origin sadness/loneliness that spousal love cannot resolve;
- modeling after a major parental weakness;
- adult child of alcoholism or divorce anger and mistrust and
- the failure to understand Catholic marriage and its support from the Lord’s love and grace.
The majority of spouses who pursue divorce – in our experience with several thousand couples – have never worked on these issues. … MORE (published at TheCatholicThing.Org)