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Agreeing to Contradictions, Cleveland Diocese

Agreeing to Contradictions, Cleveland Diocese

  • Posted by Mary's Advocates
  • On November 17, 2017
  • 2 Comments

By Bai Macfarlane, Cleveland.

Fewer Catholics are getting married, perhaps, because those teaching about marriage don’t make any sense. Edward Pentin, ETWN’s Rome correspondent, spoke at a nearby conference about the current crisis in the Church teaching about marriage, morality, and other issues.

3-Minute Excerpt, Oct. 27, 2017, Edward Pentin, Presentation given at “Catholic Identity Conference 2017.” See full video HERE

His sources at the Vatican say there are those who are blind to the crisis because they do not have the right formation.  We have “a mass of priests willing to agree with contradictions in a very trendy and modern way dialectically juggling with concepts illogically, at will, perhaps with sentimentality.”

Rev. Gerald Bednar, Cleveland Seminary

One priest who appears willing to agree with contradictions is the Vice-Rector of the Cleveland Diocese seminary, Fr. Gerard Bednar, who is a Professor of Systematic Theology in the graduate school. On November 11, an article he wrote appeared in Rome’s “L’Osservatore Romano” where he discredits the critics of Amoris Laetitia. Fr. Bednar gives an example of a couple in a second marriage who should be given mercy and be welcomed to receive Communion, and continue having sex if they want to conceive children. “The issue is not whether divorce is permissible. Clearly it is not. The issue is whether a second marriage must be characterized continuously as adultery.”

In Fr. Bendar’s article, he describes a difficult case in which a divorced man, in a second relationship, after having “come to his senses about his first marriage” and admitting his sin, was impeded from returning to his true first wife because she had remarried.  Fr. Bednar sounds and if it is only the rigid law that prevents the man from having sex with his second wife. However, I find that if the man really had “come to his senses about the first marriage,” he would know that his first true wife was the one living in a simulated marriage, and he’d want to do everything a good husband could do for her. He would not discard her, and pretend to be married to someone else, just because she had entered an adulterous so-called remarriage.

When Fr. Bednar holds two contradictory stances–1st) divorce is not permissible, and 2nd) having sex in second marriage is not necessarily adultery–he seems to miss that divorce is not a one-time occurrence for which one can be forgiven in the confessional, without an ongoing future change of mindset and action.

Dr. Donald Asci, Franciscan University of Steubenville

Key distinctions should be made between divorce and civil divorce according to Dr. Donald Asci, STD, Professor of Moral Theology at Franciscan University of Steubenville. In Asci’s essay “The Evil of Divorce and the Dignity of the Human Person – Understanding the Immorality of Divorce through St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body,” he shows that divorce entails the claim to revoke someone’s spousal identity.   In Fr. Bednar’s example, the man in the difficult situation is revoking his true spouse’ spousal identity, when he intends to continue with his replacement-wife to bear children. Therein lies the tragedy.  A truly converted husband recognizes his spouse’ spousal identity, and would spurn the suggestion of having a substitute wife, even when his spouse is behaving horribly towards him.  He would want his children to know his change of heart too.  Fr. Bednar teaches that it would be merciful to tell this husband to have sex with someone other than his true wife, which I think would break the hearts of the children from his true marriage, or least give them grave scandal.

The irony in Fr. Bednar’s situation is that he is the Vice-Rector of the Cleveland Diocese seminary, where ten seminarians are in the Capuchin Formation Program and three Capuchins serve as the Director of Pastoral Formation, Spiritual Director, and Seminary Formation Faculty.

Fr. Thomas G. Weinandy, O.F.M., Cap.

A renowned Capauchin, who was born three hours west of Cleveland (Delphos, Ohio), made international headlines on November 1st for criticizing Pope Francis and Amoris Laetitia. After receiving a miraculous sign from God, Fr. Thomas Weinandy, O.F.M., Cap., wrote to Pope Francis, warning that he’s risking sinning against the Holy Spirit. The genius in the framing of Weinandy’s letter to the Pope was described in The Deus Ex Machina Blog, “Fr. Weinandy offers us this gem of a passage wherein he sets out his position by incorporating the formula: clarity=truth=work of the Holy Spirit.”

In Fr. Weinandy’s letter to Pope Francis, he explains:

“I have often asked myself: ‘Why has Jesus let all of this happen?’   The only answer that comes to mind is that Jesus wants to manifest just how weak is the faith of many within the Church, even among too many of her bishops.  Ironically, your pontificate has given those who hold harmful theological and pastoral views the license and confidence to come into the light and expose their previously hidden darkness.  In recognizing this darkness, the Church will humbly need to renew herself, and so continue to grow in holiness.”

If I was a seminarian in the Capuchin Formation Program in the Cleveland seminary, I would see that two of my spiritual fathers contradict each other on a matter fundamental to faith, morals, and pastoral practice. I’d have to choose between Fr. Bendar and Fr. Weinandy O.F.M.Cap..

Fr. Anthony Pillari

Another son of Ohio made headlines for criticizing Amoris Laetitia too. Fr. Anthony Pillari, who graduated from Cleveland’s St. Ignatius Jesuit High school, was one of the original signers of The Filial Correction.  Fr. Pillari is a canon lawyer, who serves as the Promoter of Justice in the Diocese of Plymouth, England. He gave an interview for LifesiteNews where he said he corrected Pope Francis because, while it was painful, it was “the Catholic thing to do.”

“There is tremendous confusion among Catholics at the very ordinary level, and even among bishops. You have bishops in one diocese in the US who will say receiving Communion, if you’re living with someone you’re not married to and living as husband and wife, would be a mortal sin. You have other dioceses where bishops are saying that’s not the case. You have different countries where bishops’ conferences are giving different interpretations. And so, these are very serious matters, because our mission as priests is to help everyone reach heaven, and that means passing on faithfully what Jesus taught in the Gospel.”

 

With the non-profit organization Mary’s Advocates, I work to reduce unilateral no-fault divorce, and support those who are unjustly abandoned.  We teach abandoned spouses how to petition the bishop to try to facilitate reconciliation and defend against accusations of invalidity of their marriage.

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Joseph
  • Nov 21 2017
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Amento the lady above If the priest don't know truth themselves or are not willing to teach it . It become our task to learn it ourselves. Check out "the Splendor of Truth " by St John Paul II and stay true to Jesus.
PpGagnon
  • Nov 20 2017
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There has never to my way of thinking been so much confusion about marriage in the Catholic Church as it is today. It starts with the confusion coming from the hierarchy from parish priests all the way to the top in Rome. Thank God I know what Jesus taught about marriage and divorce. That was enough for me to stay chaste, not date or to want to re-marry when their certainly wasn't any support to walk that walk from the priests and other people. I was definitely the odd man out and still wear that plackard on my back, after feeling it is important to honor your marriage vowels no matter what. Even if you are alone with no support. Only support was Christ alone. His annulment did not go through. There is eighteen years difference in age between him and his affair mate. This happened back in 1980. I raised four children 9 - 17. No alimony, only child support until they finished their schooling. My children are my heroes. They had to be adults at a very early age. Just eight years ago when he finally decided that our marriage was invalid he decided to go for annulment. We were both in our late 60s, early 70s. This was denied locally and also in Washington, DC. For whatever reason he did not take it to Rome. All of a sudden our marriage or lack thereof he needs an annulment. Not sure when the light bulb moment happened. I have no clue where Pope Francis is coming from. We have the Ten Commandments and the Catechism of the Catholic Church but it appears the hierarchy chooses to go by the wishy-washy feelings of people that have not decided to grow up and be adults and left their spouses and children to fend for themselves. They have been supported for 20+ years in their careers that has given them lots of money as they have climbed the corporate ladder to spend on themselves, their new arm candy and toys and most of all their egos. They choose not to share that because they earned it and want to spend it wherever they want. No salary is given to the wife who was the house-keeper, cook, care-taker, baby-sitter, chauffer, launderer, extra paycheck and the one who tried to make them feel good about themselves. Not bitter just REAL. It does not appear that the hierarchy off the Church wants to share the gospel of Christ and lead people to Heaven, it appears they just want their jobs to be less bothersome so they can fit into the crowd. Enough said, I believe in the tenets of the Catholic Church but they will not mean anything to the laity if the hierarchy does not think they are important and stand for them. They have a captive audience Sunday morning and the tenets of the Church can be taught in the homily with a little bit of attention to the tenets of the Church. I believe this is the Church Christ found, but it appears to have been invaded. I just want the TRUTH taught for me and my family. There is still a Heaven to be gained. Come Lord Jesus. I do not want my name/email published. Not necessary. Thank you for your ministry.

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