Author John Clark and I discussed separated faithful with two counselors at “Transfiguration Counseling” from a Catholic perspective — considering Catholic anthropology. John Clark has been happily married for decades and is the author of “Betrayed without a Kiss: Defending Marriage after Years of Failed Leadership in the Church.”

Welcome counselors: Kevin Sevcik, LAPC, and Erin Prater, LPC.

While the entire conversation was edifying, my favorite part was their answer to my question, “What does healing look like when the wound keeps happening?”

Erin Prater says that when she works with you, if you are grieving, at first, the cause of grief takes up your whole periphery. It is all you can see.  In time, the grief can become a smaller part of your story, and the points of pain will be fewer and maybe further between.  Kevin points out the you can acknowledge that the wound/pain is not something that is going to be healed quickly and there are no easy answers. This can begin opening the realization that there are untapped resources within you and outside — in the community. John Clark says that people need to understand that they are acting heroically about a sacrament.

Watch full discussion HERE.