- Posted by Mary's Advocates
- On October 15, 2015
He affirmed us saying, “You should be.”
Mother of the Redeemer Retreat Center, Bloomington, IN.
With Cardinal Burke, are pictured Isabel McPhilips and Bai Macfarlane, from the Separated Faithful Group in Cleveland
By Bai Macfarlane – Along with two other faithful spouses, I attended a day of reflection by Cardinal Raymond Burke on “Holy Matrimony: Sacrament of Christ in His Church.” When we showed him our book “Separated Faithful,” and explained that we were faithful after being abandoned, he affirmed us saying, “You should be.”
I’ve shared a couple highlights on our YouTube Channel. DVD recordings of the October sessions were available to participants. The full recording will be publicized on web site run by the Franciscan Friars of the Immaculate in the United States HERE During his homily, Cardinal Burke talked about situations in which a man has been abandoned by his wife. The man’s “salvation consists in his fidelity to the existing marraige bond, and he can not pretend to establish another. His calling is to seek the salvation of the partner, even if he can do so only by praying for her.”
In Cardinal Burke’s session on Marriage Preparation, he read text from the official Catholic Marriage Rite. When discussing section 7 of the Rite, he addressed the question of how much faith do parties need to enter marriage validly. He said that “the fullness of faith or perfection of faith is not required. If it were, then it would be impossible for many to enter a valid marriage, which is clearly contrary to the will of God.” If the parties cooperate with God’s grace, their faith will grow. To validly enter marraige, they need to do what the Church intends “which is not different in its essence from the natural sacrament.” (2:22)
Cardinal Burke explained the meaning of “natural sacrament” in his talk about Catechesis on Marriage Even before Jesus raised marriage to a sacrament, God had already authored marriage.
Cardinal Burke reiterated the essential elements of marraige. “Holy Matrimony is the faithful, lifelong, and procreative union of one man and one woman. By its very nature, it excludes adultery, unnatural sexual expression, and sexual intercourse which is not open to life.”
In his talk on “Remaining in the Truth of Holy Matrimony,” Cardinal Burke gave a simple explanation of the result of the nullity process – wherein one party had accused his marraige of being invalid because of a specific reason. The Church does not “judge the validity of the marriage” he said. “If it gives a negative judgment, that is not a declaration that the marraige is valid, but simply a declaration that it hasn’t been shown that it is invalid” (1m38s)
When talking about the current nullity process, that has withstood the test of time, Cardinal Burke said that “with sadness” he has seen poorly prepared personnel.
“It is not the process that is in need of modifications, but the practice of some Bishops who do not provide well prepared and just workers for their tribunals. It has to be clear too that it isnâ€™t a question of only having a degee in canon law (of being well prepared in that sense) but it has to be a person of right doctrine. In other words, a person can use-even canon law-in a dishonest way to produce unjust decisions. So the bishop has to be careful that he first and foremost that the priests who are working on the tribunal are of sound doctrine, and that they have the knowledge of canon law in order to judge properly these cases.”
Those affiliated with Mary’s Advocates support each other in remaining faithful to our marriage, and we also provide instruction on how to defend one’s marriage against accusations of nullity.